Put The Pressure Away Of Finding Your "Perfect Big/Little”
As big little season approaches, it’s important to remember that your big doesn’t have to be your perfect match nor your best friend. Sometimes it works out that way, and sometimes it works out differently.
There is so much pressure nowadays to find your “mini me” or your new perfect best friend. Don’t get us wrong, sometimes this happens, but sometimes you’re paired with someone you haven’t met before reveal or someone who wasn’t your first choice.
If that’s the case, just think about how exciting it is to have someone new to get to know and a new friendship to grow! Remember that you were matched for a reason and that someone you never thought of as a potential big or little can still become very influential in your life.
The point of big/little relationships in sororities is to get to know other girls in your chapter. If you are a big taking a little, look forward to learning how to be a role model, leader, and mentor. If you are a new girl getting a big, you now have someone to help guide you in college and beyond. No matter who the person is—whether you’ve been best friends for all of fall semester or are just meeting on reveal day—these goals can be accomplished and attained.
While the purpose of big/little relationship is to get closer with members of your chapter, this doesn’t mean you won’t have incredible relationships with older or younger sisters who aren’t in your Greek family. The number of mentees and mentors you will receive is countless, and each of those women will play a different role in your life. Remember, relationships of any kind take time.
If you are paired with someone who you only went on one quick sister date with or someone who you haven’t met yet, do not fret. You will need to work on the relationship and focus on getting to know the other individual in order for that relationship to prosper. So, put the pressure away to find your “perfect match,” and enjoy the process. We promise you won’t be disappointed with this mindset.