Handling Family Dynamics & Judgement this Holiday Season

Does anyone else have that super annoying family member who always asks if you’re in a relationship? We do too. Coming home after a long semester of college means that we’re all craving some significant relaxation and rest. This, however, can get interrupted by the enormous wave of judgment and questions we receive from relatives. Whether it’s backhanded and passive-aggressive comments or questions like “Have you gained a little weight?”, those holiday parties can be difficult for everyone. Here are some tips and tricks to survive all those holiday parties.

Set Boundaries

It’s completely okay to set clear boundaries with family members. Even if they’re family, you need to let people know when they’ve crossed a line. If someone says something that upsets you, politely let them know you don’t appreciate comments like that. This way, you’ve clearly expressed how the comment made you feel and, hopefully, they’ll know not to speak like that to you again.

Adjust Your Mindset

Don’t go into your family gatherings thinking that it’s going to go bad or that something’s going to happen. Go in with an open mind and remember all the happy memories you share with your family. Having a relaxed headspace before family gatherings will allow you to be more tolerant when dealing with annoying behaviors.

Create a Signal

You know that favorite cousin we all have? Well, create a signal between the two of you when you need to be saved from a certain conversation. Let them know when to step in. This way, you can always count on someone to help you get out of conversations that are just simply not benefitting your well-being.

Change the Subject

When it’s obvious that the conversation is going in a direction that is uncomfortable or hurtful, be prepared to change the subject. We know this can be exhausting, but just try it. Try to make it a happier, funnier topic instead of the common political debates that occur at every family dinner table.

Stay Away from Politics

The world has become so political these days, and often times these super political conversations can really disrupt what’s supposed to be the “best time of the year.” So, just simply stay away from it. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but there’s much more to talk about than politics. Do your best to stay away from it and focus on the holiday cheer!

Find Some Fun

I am super lucky to have a big family with lots of cousins who I love spending time with! So, find the fun; find the family members that make you laugh and enjoy the holiday parties. We all deserve to enjoy this season, so surround yourself with family members that make you laugh and feel excited to be at the party.

We hope this will help you better enjoy the holiday season and navigate those difficult relative interactions. Try your best to soak up all the happy family moments and find the fun where you can. And from everyone at The Edge, happy holidays!