Recovering from Recruitment
A lot of us girls have a bias on sororities, rushing and what we thought recruitment would look like. It’s normal to be scared, excited and downright terrified about going into something blindly. A lot of us here at The Edge are affiliated, and many of us chose not to go down that road. Everyone’s experience is different, so here's how mine went.
I didn’t have a clue in the world about what Greek life was like, and I didn’t know much about the different sororities. I had thoughts about where I wanted to go based off of what names I liked the best - but truly had no idea where I’d fit in. After the first day, it feels like you went on a bunch of different dates. You have some that you’d like to get to know better, some where you already know it’s not meant to be, and a select few where you’re already planning the wedding. It sucks to not get asked back to the houses you liked, or even loved. I remember being so stressed throughout the whole process. My thoughts were filled with how my previous conversations went, how well I thought I did and how I could have done so much better. I was scared that I wouldn’t get asked back, hoping and wishing that the girls I talked to could see through my nervousness and excuse it.
However, one thing I wish I knew is that everything will be okay. It can be really scary at first after bid day and if you don’t know everyone yet, it feels uncomfortable. BUT, the best thing you can do for yourself is listen to what you need and how you’re feeling. You’re going to be busy…a lot. Between sister dates, events and parties, it’s important to try and not feel pressured to do so much at once. Greek life is not everything, so remember to still make time for other things you enjoy!
Don’t ever feel like you need to morph into someone you’re not to fit in better. These girls saw something in you from the moment they met you, so give yourself time to adjust. It’ll all work out in the end, no matter what happens. For the girls who didn’t get their first choice or ended up dropping during the rounds, it’s okay. No one is judging you, and this will not define you; rushing and recruitment is not for everyone.