Becoming Your Own Favorite Person

Learning to be comfortable on your own can be difficult. As humans, it is in our nature that we constantly compare ourselves to others. We shouldn't do this though as we are all different from each other. Everyone is too focused on themselves to realize the insecurities you may have. This may sound dumb or cliché, but, fake it till you make it. It’s kind of like manifesting. 

In order to become your favorite person, you must take time alone. Learning to sit with your thoughts and feelings and not needing others to validate them is important. Learn what you love to do, and do things that make your mind and body feel good. Be your own best friend. 

Don't become too dependent on someone else for your happiness. Learn not to depend on others as much. When we do, they disappoint us. This includes friendships and relationships. People change, and there’s nothing we can do about it. Just keep it moving. It’s hard, but the more you love yourself, the easier it will be. You’ll realize that you don’t deserve to be treated badly and that you deserve more.

Not everyone is going to like or love you. That’s a harsh truth. The earlier you accept this, the faster you will realize that the only thing you can do is learn to love yourself. Stop thinking of how others perceive you. Think of how you perceive yourself. 

You can practice this by doing little things such as going on solo dates or eating alone or just taking time to sit with your thoughts and get to know yourself as a person. Once you are able to discover who you are, then you are able to love yourself for who you are. Like that TikTok sound says, “Kill that urge to be chosen, choose yourself.”

Spend time on your own. Some activities that you could do on your own are:

  • Going out to eat

  • Going on a drive

  • Spend time in nature

  • Read a book 

  • Visit a museum 

  • Buy yourself flowers

  • Journal 

Take it easy; don't be so harsh on yourself. The love and patience you demonstrate for others, demonstrate it to yourself as well. Be gentle with yourself. 

Start romanticizing the role you play in your own life. If you aren't your favorite person, then make yourself your favorite person!